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Christmas day 1989, Foodie ripped open a red and green papered package exposing Wedding Day Barbie. As a little girl she would collect wedding magazine clippings and hide them a secrete box of future dreams. Growing up she envisioned a day when she too would be like Barbie in a white dress. A day that would be about her, where she would feel beautiful and all her family and friends would dance, laugh and Champaign toast in her honor.
Fast forward 20 years….
Foodie is engaged; about to graduate college, her once stable family has been split down the middle by a messy divorce and the fact that she will probably not have that dream wedding is becoming a heartbreaking reality. Last week was packed with a roller coaster of events. Monday she found a location, Mr. Fiancés surprise visit, Tuesday the location was out, Wednesday she found a new location that even Mr. Fiancé loved and by Friday she realized that even a Sunday day wedding would financially be out of her league.
Is it worth to still have a half-assed wedding or better to not have a wedding at all? Foodie’s father recently suggested that she should have a courthouse wedding instead of making a big deal out of it. Hello!!! This is her wedding, and unlike him she plans to only have one wedding!!!!!!!
As she held back the tears while thinking of this terrible thought, she remembered that initially Mr. Fiancé and her had wanted to have a small forest wedding at her mother’s cabin near Salmon La Sac. When previously suggested, Foodie’s father had nixed the idea because his current wife didn’t feel comfortable in the cabin that Foodie and her parents had once enjoyed together as a family. However, Foodies Father is not paying for her dream wedding on the greens at Inglewood Golf Course with a fountain, pretty flowers, a white dress, and layered cake, so why should she let his wife decide on one of the most memorable moments of her life? If she can’t have her ideal wedding, at least she can have a small wedding at a place with sentimental value that reminds her of a time when life was less complicated.
Dear Foodie,
ReplyDeleteI definitely do not recommend skipping the wedding altogether. I eloped with my soon-to-be ex because I thought it would be too hard to have a "dream wedding," whatever that means. If I ever get married again, I would definitely do things differently. I think it is important to share such a special moment with friends and family. If you can't get everyone together for one day, I don't think it bodes will for your future together. Make yourselves happy, and screw everyone else. This day is about you!